I was involved in a conversation in a womens group today about judgement. I have been exploring judgement for a long time and this is what I have come to understand.
When we judge another for being a certain way arent we really judging that same part of ourselves that we see in the other person – an aspect of ourselves that we may be disowning and denying, or an aspect that exists only in potential. All judgement then is self judgement.
How can I use this knowledge? If I look for the aspect of my self that I am judging by judging the other person within me then I can see whether I am in fact also judging myself in this way. If I am not this way but I am still judging then I can ask myself the following questions?
If I was the way this person is how would I react to my judgemental words?
How would I be treatingmyself and how would I feel if I was judging myself in this way?
How would I be kind and compassionate to myself if I was like this person?
What would I NEED from myself if I were like this person? What would I need from others?.
Does not practising that kindness and compassion with ourselves not then allow us to be that way with another and vice versa?
SO if you find yourself judging another look for the following things?
How you might be like that person and how you might be judging yourself in the same way.
And how can you use the presence of judgement to develop kindness and compassion for yourself and for others.
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